Separation

Cool MarySClem, that you found a way to compromise with each other! Yes, Carol, my separation was definitely related to the breast cancer. There were other issues but dealing with cancer amplified all of the other issues. I think there was resentment when I was in active treatment even though I **thought** my husband was supportive. Looking back, I see how many times I had to rely upon myself or others when I should have been able to lean upon him.

When active treatment was over, he announced that I no longer had cancer and he no longer wanted to ever hear about cancer again. Great for him but how does one "finish cancer." The answer, You don't. There is no cure. Survivors get it. Others may not. Daily reminders (seeing scars) and doctor appointments (several different doctors) throughout the year make it impossible to just forget. Again, "we" get it. Others may struggle.

We are communicating now on a somewhat deeper level. I stepped into an advocacy role and I do this for the sake of my daughter and the next generation. This may complicate any attempts at reconciling but I am remaining true to myself.

Would be happy to talk privately if you wish....

AnneMarie