Family Members

It really does depend on the age of the sons. Two of mine were in elementary school and one was in preschool. My husband told all of them after school was out, in a comforting demeanor at home. Since he didn't show any alarm, they took it well. But of course we never really know how they are feeling deep inside unless they share it with us. My latest blog post is on this very topic at janhasak.com/blog.

Debbie,
This is an excellent question...due to HIPPA laws we can only speak with the patient's family members that are listed on the patient's chart regarding the patient's specific case.
Usually I recommend everyone write their questions down to bring into the patient's appointment. This includes spouse, children, sibling, etc questions.
Unfortunately, I find that many times children are left out of the equation unless they are adult children. It is very important for all close family members to understand the patients condition and proposed treatment.
I personally am only able to answer questions of those family members who come in or call with questions and as said before they must be on the approved patient's HIPPA list.

When experiencing fear of a post-treatment recurrence, I tell my friends that the best thing they can do for me is pray and meditate. It's important to find friends who can handle your expression of fear without judgment or emotion. A loved one may be too close to you to listen to those fears without panicking. A volunteer from the American Cancer Society can be an objective source of support, there just to listen and affirm any anxiety. For breast cancer the ACS offers Reach to Recovery volunteers. I've benefited from this program and now volunteer in that capacity.